OKCupid Follow-up

I know most of you are groaning to find yet another blog entry about OKCupid, but I had a thought about it this aft, and - well - you’re a captive audience, right?

So, it’s a bit late to be making new year’s resolutions (since Q1 2004 has just expired) but in the spirit of self-improvement I offer the following. Select the trait from your profile - one that you feel is accurate for you - that you’d like to work to change (or at least alter). I put the question to you: which would you change, and why?

Now, I’m not so much interested in what overall personality description you’d most like to be, but rather which of Deliberate, Gentle, Love, Master (in my case) you’d like to change a bit.

In my case, I think I’d like to work on Deliberate vs. Random. I think I can get overly caught up in the process of being Deliberate, and it can affect me actually just living my life and being happy about things. If I was less deliberate then I think I might be better at stopping and smelling the roses, and letting the highs and lows of life have an impact on me.

At present (and some of you have talked to me about this) I think I can over-intellectualize my emotions. This can be a good coping strategy for negative emotions, as squelching the emotional part and dealing with the intellectual fallout rationally keeps me on an even keel. On the other hand, if a good emotion comes up I tend to deal with it the same way: squelch the goodness and intellectualize it. That is too much of an even keel. So… I think that if I were a bit more random, and didn’t think things through quite as much, I could just live it up a bit more.

Of course, that would make me the Loverboy, which sounds a bit racy, but maybe I could use a dose of that, even if not the whole kettle of fish, as it were.

Keen to hear your thoughts about this… and about your profile.

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